Information for partners and supporters

Learn about perimenopause and menopause

Knowing what to expect, including what symptoms can be experienced, can help reduce misunderstandings. There is evidence-based information on this website, including real experiences and stories of women who have been through the menopause transition. 

You can also find trustworthy information on the Jean Hailes for Women’s Health and Australasian Menopause Society websites.

Listen and talk openly

Ask open questions like “How are you feeling?” and “What would help today?”. Sometimes listening is more helpful than advice.

Be flexible and considerate

Symptoms such as fatigue, sensitivity to heat or poor sleep can affect daily routines. Adjust plans when needed and check in about what feels manageable.

Help with everyday tasks

Offering to take on some of the tasks or chores your loved one does every day can help to ease daily stress. 

Avoid jokes or dismissive comments

Be mindful not to make light of your loved one’s symptoms. Even well intended humour can feel invalidating. 

Support medical care

Encourage your loved one to talk with their doctor if symptoms are affecting their daily life. Offer to help make an appointment or go along for support if they want company.

Be patient about intimacy

Changes in libido (sexual desire) or physical comfort are common in the menopause transition. Reassure your partner that these changes are normal and explore other ways to maintain closeness. 

Pregnancy is still possible during perimenopause. If you and your partner don’t want to become pregnant, it is important to consider contraception at least until your partner reaches the end of perimenopause (12 months after their final period).